The understanding
Said plainly, so you never have to wonder.
Almost everything uncomfortable about a service like this comes from vagueness — from nobody quite saying what it is. That seems like a poor way to begin, so here it is, before you have given us your name.
You will find it is a shorter and more ordinary list than you might expect.
Included
What the evening actually looks like.
He arrives on time, at a public place the two of you agreed, dressed for the occasion because he asked what the occasion was. He knows the names of the people who matter to you and how to pronounce them.
Then he is simply good company — genuinely interested, easy with strangers, happy on a dance floor, and entirely uninterested in being the most interesting person at the table. He notices when you would like to be rescued from a conversation, and when you would not.
And he leaves when you said the evening would end, because you agreed that too.
- A pre-event briefing and the social context of the occasion
- Attire agreed in advance
- Punctual arrival at a public, agreed meeting point
- Courteous introductions and natural conversation
- Genuine social participation, including the dance floor where mutually comfortable
- Photographs consistent with ordinary event behaviour
- Assistance navigating arrival, seating and departure
- Discreet attention to your comfort throughout
- Departure coordination at the time you set
Not included
And what it simply is not.
This is company for an evening. It is never romantic and never sexual — not as a matter of policy or discretion, but because that is not what this is. Either of you can end an engagement on the spot if that is ever tested, and neither of you would owe the other an explanation.
Saying so here means neither of you has to raise it later, which is rather the point.
- Sexual services or sexual contact of any kind
- Romantic promises, or the suggestion of a relationship
- Kissing or intimate physical conduct
- Hotel-room or shared-lodging companionship
- Private-residence meetings, other than a specifically approved hosted event
- Massage, cuddling, or any physical-intimacy service
- Anything illegal, or the facilitation of it
- Driving you, unless separately approved and insured
- Deception about identity, credentials, employment, engagement or marriage
- Legal advice, or an attorney-client relationship of any kind
- Therapy, medical care, security services or supervision of intoxication
- Secret recording, or publicity of any kind
Introductions
How you would introduce him.
“A friend.” “My guest.” “My plus-one.” Every one of those is true, none of them needs explaining, and in practice nobody at a wedding asks a second question.
What he cannot do is invent a history — a romance that did not happen, a marriage that does not exist, a job he does not hold. Partly because it asks him to mislead people who have done nothing to deserve it. Mostly because those stories are far harder to carry through an evening than anyone imagines, and you would spend the night managing it instead of enjoying yourself.
If it goes wrong
Either of you can simply stop.
If someone is harassing you, if the evening turns out to be something other than what was described, if a venue feels unsafe, if either of you is uncomfortable — the engagement ends there, without a negotiation about it.
This runs in both directions, and it is not a formality. It is the thing that lets both of you relax.
A note on drinking
He will have a glass of something with you. He will not have four. The working maximum is two across an entire evening, and none at all where driving or the circumstances make that the sensible choice — because the whole value of having him there is that he stays useful all night.
One legal note
He is a lawyer. Not yours.
Plus One, Properly provides social-companionship and event-accompaniment services only. The founder does not provide legal services or legal advice through this initiative. No attorney-client relationship, attorney-client privilege or other protections associated with legal representation are created.
Being a lawyer is part of why the preparation is as thorough as it is. But no legal advice is given here and no attorney-client relationship is created, and it would be wrong to let anyone assume otherwise over dinner.
Discretion
What discretion honestly means.
Nothing about your engagement is published. Your records are visible only to you and to the people running the service. If you ever wanted to say something kind publicly, it would need your written permission for each part of it — the words, your role, your city — and it would be anonymous unless you asked otherwise.
He does not discuss engagements — not who, not where, not that one happened at all. That is written into the engagement terms rather than only onto this page, so it is something you can hold him to and not merely something he says. If you would rather have it in a document with your own name on it, he will sign a non-disclosure agreement before the evening — yours or one provided for you. There is no charge for it and no disadvantage to declining it.
What nobody can honestly promise you is invisibility. The Foundation publishes its leadership, screenshots exist, and other guests have eyes. What is offered is real discretion and careful access — and anyone offering you more than that is telling you what you want to hear.